Are Online Emotional Affairs The Same As Cheating?

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Social media has become such a huge part of our lives. It’s no wonder that people are forming tight emotional bonds with friends they meet online. But are these emotional connections the same as cheating? There’s a lot of debate around this issue. And some people even spy on texts to make sure their spouse isn’t having an online emotional affair. A poll of divorce attorneys found that online cheating is becoming a huge reason why marriages end in divorce. But others don’t think that online emotional connections count as cheating. What do you think? Personally, I believe it depends on the situation and the context.

My Friend’s Experience

My best friend has a lot of online friends. She’s a stay-at-home mom and when her kids are at school, she spends a lot of time on social media. We’re both on Facebook Messenger almost 24 hours a day, and I know she talks to a lot of people. Some of them are men, but she is always very clear that she is married. Sure, she’s friends with these guys and talks to them about problems in her marriage. But is that cheating? I wouldn’t say so, because her male friends know she’s married. While she may talk about things that aren’t always appropriate, sometimes it never goes any further than that. There’s no reason for her husband to spy on texts that she sends to her online friends. Even though she might exchange a lot of messages with other guys throughout the day, they aren’t romantic or anything like that. So, in my opinion, it’s not really cheating.

How An Online Emotional Affair Affected My Family

My brother-in-law, however, did cheat on my sister online. After learning how to spy on texts, she found out that he had been striking up relationships with strangers online. These were women he didn’t know. And he told them he was divorced and sent them romantic messages, gifts, and photos. He talked to some of these women endlessly, to the point where he was getting up in the middle of the night to answer their messages and text them. I think that’s definitely cheating. He sought these women out with the intention of having romantic relationships with them. He didn’t tell them he was married, or a father, and didn’t plan on ever revealing that information. One of the women did a background check on him, found out he was married, told my sister. This woman thought it was cheating, too.

It's easy to make new connections on social media.
Social media can help people make new connections.

So I think it’s possible to have a strong emotional bond with someone online without it technically being cheating. But there is a lot of cheating that takes place on social media. That’s why so many people now spy on texts. If you find out that your partner is spending all their time online talking to someone else, it might not necessarily be cheating. But if they’re actively trying to engage in a personal relationship with someone online, and doesn’t tell them that they’re married, it’s probably cheating. At the very least, they have the intention of cheating. And if they’re cheating online, they’re not going to stop, no matter what they tell you after you catch them. Leave them, move on and find someone better that you can trust. You deserve to be with someone who not only shares your interests in music and television, but also respects you.